Argue With Your Teenager

It is difficult to say "no" to your children and with children of control it is even more difficult. It is also difficult to follow. It is kind of knee jerk reaction. Then you are backed into a corner. You must paste your "no" and this is where the problem begins.

Let's go through this slowly. First of all, you said not to your problem child. The next question, you got it, "why"? A brief explanation is all you need. If you start overexplaining, you are give the power to them. This is what a rebel child wants - power. And it is an easy to go down, because we think it is better to understand and then they will be in agreement with your answer.

But they do you agree with the response. What happens is that you end up compromising. And then you start to change the rules. And when you do this, you lead your kiddo to not accept without a response. This is not good for a teenager in trouble.

And if you play it off, there not only is training to not take a response, you reward him too. Yes, if it made you change the rules for what he wants, he gets what he wants! Therefore the rewards. Here are 5 steps help to paste to your No.

Establish your authority early. Start setting limits very early in life. This also includes good structure. As holding hand 3 yr old of your child through the street. It is your Foundation.
Monitor over-stimulation. If your child is excited, it will seem as from those of the children of the control. And, thus, they have a very difficult time following directions. The best thing to do here is give them a 5 minute break. Then give them a chance to do what they were asked. If they are not able, give them a few minutes more in the room to calm down.
Do not let them turn you around. If you have enough given your child a brief explanation and he began to argue, the absolute thing is said "no, I will not discuss it further." Then on foot. NOT TURN. If you do, give you him the power to turn you around every time.
Said the new rules to your child.The best time to explain the rules "" news of your child is when all is quiet. Tell them 'does not mean'. Help come up with some coping skills, if none is a word that thwart the.
Do not forget these 3 roles of parents: teacher, Coach and limit Setter. All 3 of these roles are essential. The 2 first lead up to be able to do without the third. A note aside, not one of these roles is friend. We are, however, be friendly and express positive feelings for them.

It is the reduction of the base. I hope that you'll get a jump start on your children discipline at an early age, so you do not have to face the problems of children's behaviour. Remember, if you leave leave you by failing to answer that the children, they'll do as adults. This will lead to problems in relationships.

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"My teenagers are driving me crazy! I love them. I don't want anything bad to happen to them, but I just don't like being around them right now. I can't get them to stop fighting with each other...arguing with me...disobeying...being disrespectful. I'm going to lose it if something doesn't break soon."
Sound familiar?
If you're at this stage in your parenting, you probably feel absolutely hopeless. Your teenagers are running the show, and it's going to take commitment and resolve to get the power back-but it's vital, for their sake and yours!
Fact is, you're the parent.
You love your kids - it's part of the reason this is so exasperating and exhausting. You want things to be different, and you believe they could be. You know your kids would be much happier if they got on board with your expectations, but you just can't seem to find the way.
There are ways to achieve that, but first you need to realize that your teenagers are in crisis right now. They've been floundering without a lot of structure, and, probably with a lot of yelling and/or anger. So, before you can make behavioral expectations of them, you need to set behavioral guidelines for yourself. There are five rules for you to implement before you take the steps to reach your teens. Before you argue that it's impossible for you to behave well in the face of the way they treat you and each other-but if you can't do it, how can you expect them to?
Here are the difficult but basic rules you need to follow consistently:
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• No yelling at them-they probably don't hear what you say when you yell anyway.
  
• No arguing with them - you're the parent, you don't have to defend yourself or convince them.
  
• Smile and say kind things more than you say negative things. Teens are a product of what they perceive your expectations of them are. If they believe you expect them to act like monsters, they will. Empower them to behave well.
  
• Apologize when you mess up.
  
• Tell them you love them every single day.

Once you've made progress toward implementing those rules, you're ready to tackle the problems with the Six Steps toward reclaiming the power in your home.
1. Strip them of everything. This isn't the time to start with lectures like, "The next time this happens, there will be a consequence." I'm guessing you've been down that road. Now it's time to send each them back to their birthday, and let them work their way to the life of comfort and leisure they want, but don't deserve. Again, this is not cold-hearted. This is vital for the health and happiness of the whole family and so that these teenagers will grown into well-rounded, self-sufficient, respectful adults. That includes things like:

designer clothes
makeup
music
iPods
cell phone
television
sports
activities
etc...everything non-essential to life

2. Put it in writing. Make a list of the non-negotiable behaviors you demand from them. Short of meeting those requirements, they will receive only what's required by law: food, shelter, education. Anything else must be earned back. Slowly. If it's not in writing, it's open to interpretation. Then later, when they push back and want to argue about your expectations, don't reiterate them, tell them to do their own research, and read your list.
3. Require outreach. Get them involved in helping someone or volunteering somewhere that has nothing to do with benefiting them in any way. Let them see how rough some people have it. Once a week, or once a month will go a long way.
4. Get help! It's very important that, during this time, you seek the help of a spiritual leader like a pastor or youth leader who can help drive the point home. These efforts must be intentionally supported outside your home in order for them to have the greatest impact. A school counselor is good...but you really need and want the spiritual connection, too.
5. Don't rush the process. They shouldn't feel that treating people with kindness and respect deserves an iPod. What we're talking about here are the basic behaviors all human beings should extend toward each other. So let the process go on for a while so it really makes an impact. At a certain point, you'll know when it's been long enough-when the changes have taken root in the heart and aren't just on the surface.
6. Pray. Are you praying for your kids every single day? Are you talking to them about what's bothering them or making life challenging for them? Be sure to let them know how much you love them and let them see and hear you pray for them.







Blessings,
Nicole O'Dell, Choose NOW Ministries
...battling peer pressure by tackling the tough issues
Nicole O'Dell, founder of Choose NOW Ministries is a youth culture expert, who writes and speaks to preteens, teenagers, and parents about how to prepare for life's tough choices. She is the author of a bunch of YA books, including the popular Scenarios for Girls interactive fiction series and the upcoming Diamond Estates Series, 2011-2012. Non-fiction for teens includes Girl Talk, 2/1/12, which she wrote with her two daughters based on their popular blog column by the same name, and O'Dell's desire to bridge the gap between parents and teens is evident in her adult non-fiction like the upcoming Hot Buttons series.
The host of Teen Talk Radio where "It's all about choices!", Nicole dives in on topics like peer pressure, dating, purity, drugs, alcohol, modesty, popularity, decisions about the future, and many other things that might come up along the way. Over the years, Nicole has worked as a youth director, a Bible study leader for women and teens, and a counselor at a crisis pregnancy center. She lives in Illinois with her husband, Wil and her six wonderful kids--including a set of toddler triplets.

Many if not all of us wish there was a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow and a magic bullet for all the other things that plague our lives, acne being one of them. There is no magic bullet to cure all acne but there are 4 tips that should be part of any teenage acne treatment. Habits exist that will make acne worse and there are a number of falsehoods in regards to acne.
Having clear skin or as close to it as possible is important since it is well documented that acne can lead a person into depression and even suicidal thoughts. People spend a lot of money for clear skin and although I could argue that there is unnecessary vanity in some of this I will admit that having acne, as a youth was not easy and even today when I get a pimple it is not pleasant. It is particularly hard for a teenager and so lets look at the best teenage acne treatment.

So if we simplify the treating of teenage acne by focusing on these four main points.
1. Squeeze Pimples - This is a habit that is very detrimental to the skin and needs to be avoided. When a pimple or a blackhead is squeezed the pus can be pushed deeper into the skin and even into adjacent segments of the epidermis and in bad cases even the dermis layer of the skin. This squeezing pimples will also result in a larger cavity and lead to the terrible scarring of the skin. The pus if not properly cleaned from the skin can also infect other parts of the skin and cause the acne to spread.
2. Hormones - Hormones do cause acne and is often the culprit for the first signs of acne in young people going through puberty as their bodies undergo tremendous hormonal changes. There are lifestyle habits that can affect hormone levels and if a person takes the time to understand these and incorporate the practices into their life they can often greatly reduce the occurrence of acne. The only food items related to acne are dairy products such as milk, cheeses, ice cream and yogurt. The hormones in the dairy products stimulate the acne breakouts. Currently there is no connection between acne and any other food items like chocolate, pizza or even potato chips. The greatest cause besides puberty is stress since stress increases the levels of hormones in the body. Therefore, any practice that increases stress could be said to be secondarily related to causing acne and pimples. These lifestyle practices include rest, water intake, the consumption of sweets and oils, faulty thinking habits, lack of exercise, getting pure air and being outside and getting sunlight.
3. Treatment - If the case of acne is bad enough that as much as 20% of the skin is covered the person should see a dermatologist who will most likely prescribe one of the medications for Acne. The numerous acne treatment systems available for sale and some are proven to help young men and women with the frequency and severity of pimples but take caution that you don't waste your money on something that does not work. Don't rush, make sure that you find the product that is well known to work.
4. Hygiene - Poor hygiene will not create acne and pimples but if the skin is dirty it can clog the pores and will result in blackheads. It is important to not scrub acne since it can spread the pus and infection to other parts of the skin. Be careful in your selection of soap since most soap leaves a film on the skin. Cleansing your face is best to do with warm water and just your hands so there is no hard scrubbing.
This may seem to simple but being able to can change your day to day habits and your thinking patterns will likely be the work of a lifetime. The number one thing you need to do for teenage acne treatment is learn how to control your stress and second is to eliminate dairy products from your diet as much as possible. If you accomplish these two tasks you have made two significant choices that will reduce the occurrence and severity of acne and pimples.





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I'm sure that you want to have nice, gentle, and entertaining conversations with your teens. Unfortunately, I'm equally sure that it doesn't always quite happen.

Don't give up hope, though, there is a way to have a nice conversation with your teen (your spouse, coworker, etc.). A nice part of this method is that it costs nothing, doesn't take any physical energy (like to handcuff your child's hand so they can't text their friend while talking to you), and, as a matter of fact, it has mostly nothing to do with them!

Here's how it goes:

1. Recognize the difference between facts and opinions. Facts are absolute. Opinions are... opinions. Music over 85 decibel is a loud sound is a scientific fact. If you like it our not is an opinion. Hair painted green is green is a fact. If it is nice or not is an opinion.

2. When you disagree with a FACT that they say, do a Google search and see who is right. (Don't be surprised when they are!) There is now no need to argue and have bad feelings toward each other. Just move on to another topic.

3. If THEY say an OPINION about something that you don't agree with, DON'T say, "You don't know what you are talking about!".Rather say, "Interesting, I think differently." Or, "I never thought of it like that".

4. If YOU say an opinion about something that they don't agree with don't get insulted. Just ask WHY they think differently. Don't just feign listening to their explanation but really listen to what they say. Two things could happen. (1) You'll understand your opinion better. (2) You might change your opinion and be better for it.

Don't get my wrong. I totally believe that parents have the right and the OBLIGATION to transmit THEIR value system to their children (my opinion). However I also believe that there is a time and a place to it. If the timing is off then a long parental lecture won't accomplish anything but to close communication channels. And this you surely don't want.

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