Argue With Your Teenager

Whether you're fifteen or eighty, whether you're a man or a woman, assuredly there is at least one type of plastic surgery that you've considered getting at one point in your life. Both sexes desire bodily perfection (or at least something close to it). Thanks to advances in modern medicine and surgical procedures, just about everyone can afford to have their body sculpted in the manner in which they choose; shave a little here, add a little volume there - it's all possible, all it takes is a little cash and a skilled plastic surgeon.

In today's society, everyone wants to be perfect. You can even include me in that category. Who doesn't want to be beautiful and highly regarded amongst one's peers? To that end, the plastic surgery industry thrives on society's infatuation with physical beauty. Unfortunately, that societal pressure for physical beauty affects even young girls.

Most people don't realize it, but there are no hard and fast regulations when it comes to age restrictions and plastic surgery. A sixteen year old girl can purchase implants just as easily as a thirty year old woman. Although that may not sound like there should be any cause for concern, the sixteen year old girl's body is not fully developed while the thirty year old woman's body is fully developed.

While exterior beauty can certainly benefit a person's self esteem and self confidence, a person's true self worth comes from within. If you were to ask a dozen men whether they feel a particular woman is attractive, you will more or less get the same response from all of them. While that knowledge might boost a woman's self confidence, it pales in comparison to how she feels about herself. Elevating her self-esteem and self-confidence to its highest potential requires her to believe in herself. The ultimate goal of a plastic surgery procedure is not only about sculpting the body into a more pleasing form; it's really about helping a person boost their own level of self-confidence.

Women start to visibly age in their early thirties. Once that process starts, most women start giving serious consideration to one form of plastic surgery or another. For men, aging is a much more gradual process, and the effects of it on a man are much more socially acceptable than they are for a woman. The bulk of plastic surgery patients are women in their thirties and forties, and that's not going to change any time soon.

The woman in her thirties or forties who gets plastic surgery is seeking to restore youth to her body. The young woman in her early to mid twenties is typically seeking a properly balanced body. Both women are trying to elevate their self esteem and there's nothing wrong with that. However, when a young girl wants breast augmentation surgery, such as a sixteen year old girl, some people argue that is simply too young.

Both boys and girls in their early teenage years are unhappy with their bodies. It's not until they are eighteen years old that they start to feel exceedingly pleased with the development of their body. And for women, their breasts continue to develop into their early twenties. That fact makes it seem even less necessary for a young girl to get breast implants because how can she know how she truly feels about her body when it's still undeveloped?

The recommended minimum age for a breast augmentation patient is eighteen years old, and that is only a recommendation; if her parents approve of the surgery, even a fifteen year old could get breast implants! In this writer's opinion, that is simply too young. Women should wait until their bodies are fully developed before having cosmetic enhancement surgery of any kind.

Breast augmentation surgery is easily the most performed invasive cosmetic surgery in the world. It's obvious that all women want beauty, but at what point does the health risk outweigh the potential aesthetic reward?

To learn more about plastic surgery age restrictions, you will need to speak directly with a licensed plastic surgeon. Only a licensed doctor can provide you with medical guidance and counsel regarding your health related decisions. Good luck!

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I just heard of two cases that raised great alarm about our future. You see, I have always believed that we must invest in our children with education because will become our future leaders. Now, I am wondering about who will be our future leaders.
A professor for a University in Canada ordered, 50 of my books on The Power of Personal Accountability. Normally, quantities of my books are sold to Managers or HR Directors. But, this was a professor in the Science Department. I called to find out how they were using my book. The professor said, "I am buying it for my students." As she further explained, "The students today seem to have an entitled view of life. For example, a student who flunked the last test, came to me to argue about her grade. She said that she deserved a "C" because she tried hard while taking the test." She said, "reading your book is like allowing my students to take a 'cold shower of reality' and the most common remark is that they see a link between accountability and happiness. After reading your book, they are more committed to studying, to their careers and to establishing clear commitments in order to improve their lives."
In a different situation, I was talking with a manger who described the following situation. "I have a young employee just out of university. After nine months on the job and failing, we decided to offer them a different position that they might succeed in, since we didn't want to fire them. After being told about their lack of performance and the opportunity to do another job in the company, the employee asked the following question, 'Does this mean I am going to get a raise in my pay?'"
education (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)As a parent and educator, I find these two stories a bit scary. And, these aren't isolated examples of what I hear on a fairly regular basis. It is clear that these young adults have not experienced accountability in a way that would give them an understanding of behavior and consequences. I don't mean punishment, but I do mean the natural cause and effect of life. If we as parents, teachers or coaches are providing our children with too much comfort so that they can avoid the pain we experienced in life, we could be contributing to their disease of entitlement. They simply don't know better, because they haven't experienced anything different.
How does this happen? When we remove grades from our education system because we have too many people flunking or getting D's. When we as parents create agreements with our children only to repeatedly make exceptions because we don't really want to make our children uncomfortable with the consequence. We want them to enjoy being a teenager and besides we weren't the perfect kids. When we as managers set standards of performance, attitude and behavior but we don't have follow up conversations that review the person's effectiveness in meeting those standards because we are too busy, we are taking the meaning out of our commitments and agreements.
Accountability is critical, not just for getting results, but for learning and taking action to improve our results and quality of life. Without accountability people are lost in a world of expectation that if I show up, I should get paid and if I am there long enough (a year) I should get a raise, just because. Or, if I attend class on the test (no matter how many classes I missed, the homework I didn't complete or the test I failed, I should get a "C" because I showed up for the test.
What is your impact on those around you? Are you teaching them accountability and learning from consequences that we don't prefer, or are we protecting those around us from experiencing uncomfortable consequences?
Are you modeling accountability with the commitments you make and your response to the ones you break?
Is there a way you could increase positive accountability in your home or workplace?

If you would like to learn more about how accountability creates a successful life, I invite you to visit http://marksamuel.com to receive a FREE Special Report "Taking Charge of Your Success Through Accountability".
Mark Samuel is the Founder & CEO of IMPAQ, and author of "Creating the Accountable Organization" and co-author of "The Power of Personal Accountability." For the past 25 years, Mark has guided organizations around the globe to higher levels of long-term, sustainable success.

Dealing with difficult subject matters and having sensitive discussions is a part of life. However, when it comes to children broaching such topics can be challenging. Yet, if you know how to approach and explain these difficult topics so they can understand them in a thoughtful and age-appropriate way, the discussions will be less stressful and the resulting better for all involved.

If you are a parent take the time to review this set of general guidelines, as well as more specific suggestions for handling certain topics in order to arm yourself for those challenging discussions that are sure to come.

General Guidelines for Explaining Difficult Topics

No matter what the subject, there are certain principles that can be applied. Knowing what they are will give you a good base for your talk with your young children or teenagers.

Don't overwhelm them with details. Let your child be the guide and follow their lead as to how much information to give.

Remember to be age-appropriate with the amount and type of information you share. Details a teenager might be able to handle would not be assimilated the same way by a younger child.

Break down data in a way would benefit or address the concerns of the child in question.

Allow children to ask their own questions and respond honestly. Encourage openness.

Incorporate your family values into difficult discussions. If you are not sure how you feel about a certain topic or conversation your child what's to have, be honest, share your ambiguous feelings to your children. It is okay to let them know that you do not have all the answers, but that you can and will research the topic and try to find the answers they need.

If you want to have a discussion with your child plan an activity together, and have the necessary discussion while you are both busy at work or play.

While some topics may arise out of the blue, some are predictable. Therefore, plan to talk to your child earlier than necessary about subjects that are bound to come up. That way you will beat their peers to the subject!

Listen carefully to what your child to say about whatever topic is being discussed. You will gain clues on how much you should tell them or what they really want and needs to hear-what their concerns really are. Be patient with yourself and your child, talk as long as your child needs to.

Talking About Divorce

If a child is concerned that his parents may divorce but their relationship is healthy, he or she needs to be reassured of that. They also need to know that some arguing amongst adults is normal. The child simply needs reassurance that his family unit is stable and intact.

But if divorce is looming on the horizon, the conversation will be very different. However, it should always begin and end with reassurance. Tell them that they will always be loved and that will never change. Children need to be reminded that no part of the decision to divorce is a reflection on them.

Always addressed the general topic of divorce in a factually manner with an explanation that it is a reality for many families.

Talking About The Concept Of Being Gay

Whether the topic comes up as a generality or if a child asks about the same-sex parent of a friend or neighbor, the subject matter of being gay is another discussion that some parents are unease about or not prepared to have. This is an area where your values may come into play so you might want to tackle it form a factually point of view.

You can explanation to your child that some people happen to love another person who just happens to be of the same-sex. For a young child, this should be sufficient. For a teenager, the discussion regarding sexual orientation may be more complicated and fraught with legal and moral issues. No matter how you choose to handle this be open, and encourage your children to treat everyone as he would want to be treated. Remind them that whether or not a person is gay has no impact on their humanity.

Talking About The Death Of A Parent Or Loved One

Death is one of the most difficult subjects to bring up with children or teenagers. Nevertheless, when faced with it, there is no shying away from it. Communicating effectively about the topic can greatly help young people deal with loss.

Discuss the physical aspects of death, such as illness that couldn't be cured; injury that could not be fixed; and how bodies simply stop working at one point. In regards to the spiritual realm of death, values and religion reign. Share what your family believes. Comfort your children with the idea that death does not change love. Allow your child to openly express their feelings, be sure to provide a safe and judgment free environment for them to do so.

Talking About Strip Clubs

When your child notices the strip club on the highway on the way to school or church, you will most likely face another uncomfortable conversation. Luckily, this discussion does not touch close to home, so it can be dealt with in generalities as you discuss the choices some people make. Be sure to make it a life lesson. You can also explain that just like children have play area, such as amusement parks which are just for them, so does adults. Simply tell children that a strip club is place where some grown-ups chose to go to have fun.

Talking About Sex, Pregnancy And Where Babies Come From

Talking to your children about sex, pregnancy and where babies come from is one of those inevitable discussions that every parent has to have. One of the most important things to remember is to be timely with that discussion. If possible talk about the subject before your child hears about it from friends or classmates. So, you would want to start early on this topic. Simply as questions arise, answer them honestly, with small children being brief and simplistic is very important, don't divulge more information than is absolutely necessity.

Keep in mind that before deciding to introduce any difficult subject with your young children or teenager, have a game plan. Know how much information you want to share. Plan to be responsive to their input. And when subjects come up unexpectedly staying calm and being honest will save the day. Share appropriately to create a well-balanced child who know they can also came or look to they family for help in understanding the tough things in life.

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