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5 Ways to develop more Patience with children

Which of the following situations send you on the edge? You ask your child to do something three times, and it is still not listening. Your four years is to complete melt down for something that you see as trivial. You had a long day and your teen won't stop it argue with you. As moms, we all have a meter of patience. The gauge goes top down depending our mood, our personality and our triggers. If there is one thing that moms, they had more than his patience (and time, of course). Just as there are time management skills you can learn, there are also patient management skills.
Examine your expectations.
I know I'm stating a truism, but the children are not adults. They think as adults, which act as adults or even have the same development of the brain in adulthood. In fact, their brain is not fully developed until about the age of 23. The last part of the brain to develop is the part that participates in the rational decision making.
Therefore it makes sense that the expectations we have of our children must be the appropriate age and appropriate situation. Expect a child to always remember its duties or other articles which belong to him is unrealistic. Many adults have a problem to forget things. If you know a two years old and mainly of adolescence is to assert their independence, then it can be useful to place the anger and strong wills in perspective. Sometimes we lose our patience as we expect our children to behave in a way that they are simply unable. Take the time to examine the situation and try to put you in the shoes of your child. How can it feel? What is important for your child at the moment? How his view would be different from yours?
Do not take things personally
Children are like us. imperfect. And they will do things that are apparently made to us. Your child could you stare to the bottom and attitude say "no". He could not listen to the your words of wisdom because that he would instead of things its own way. Your daughter pourrait not even pregnant, even though she knows how much it will hurt you. Some bad behavior of the child can be intentional and some may be unintentional, but none of this is personal.
As soon as we become personally attached to the behavior of our children, we start with their behavior as a measure of our relevance as a MOM. If they behave well, we're a great MOM. If our children were, we have failed somewhat. These feelings of failure evoke an emotional response in us which can cause us to lose our patience. Instead of being involved emotionally in disobedience of the child, the practice as a curious observer. This is an excellent opportunity to learn more about your child and yourself. Your child may need to learn some new skills and may have to look at changing some of your own behaviour. We are all creatures normally and we learn how all control life. Taking the misconduct child personally step will be to find a solution to the problem.
Adjust your Style of parenting
I do not think there is that one size all style of parenting. Each child and each situation is different, and learn to be flexible and open on what works and what is not can make a huge difference in the management of our patience. For example, if you have a strong child will, authoritarian parenting style is probably not very effective. Being too strict and controlling with a child tenacious fort will create struggles of power that your patience will be able to manage. This style of parenting, however, can work with a passive child.
Just as each child has a different personality, each situation must be treated independently. If you are in the middle of which intensifies, examine your approach. What is you are doing right now help or an obstacle to the situation? Be prepared to adjust your approach to help diffuse the situation. There are always alternatives to lose our patience.
Develop a coherent strategy of Discipline
Most of the time when we lose our patience, it is because we waited too long for our children of discipline. If we think that on the behaviors of child that grid on our nerves, we usually think of behaviour such as geindre, whims, arguing, do not listen and speak disrespectful. All these and more are behaviours which need a coherent strategy of discipline.
If you know your child has a problem with arguing, reviewing your own trend support, put a plan in place to handle this question each time that it is up. For example, if your child begins to argue with you, patiently him remember that arguing is not permitted and if it continues it will be sent to his room. If it continues, send him to his room. If you regularly, it will eventually learn what are the limits. Proactive and address the bad behavior immediately, you can save the regret that you feel when you lose your patience.
Take a Timeout Mommy
Even moms can use a timeout. There are two ways to take advantage of this strategy. First, take a timeout in a situation of emotional charge. It is normal to abscond if you start to lose your patience. You think that your child is winning the battle if you walk, but the opposite is true. Your child wins the battle when you lose control of your emotions. Some battles are not worth fighting and a few battles need a timeout. You can always go back when you have dialed.
The second way to use timeout is to take regular time to engage in self-care. Most often, moms lose their patience when they are tired and worn. Know your limits and when it is time to take a timeout for MOM. Go walking, have lunch with an inspiring friend, spend time in prayer and meditation or yourself laughing ridicule in a funny film. Do whatever refuels and refreshes you. You will then return to the maternity with a whole new perspective and a healthy reserve of patience.
Patience is not something we are born with that. It is a skill that is developed with time and practice. With the right approach and the right attitude, we can all learn patience. What is the gift hidden to learn to be more patient? Our children model our behaviour.





Lori Radun, CEC is a professional speaker for moms and a certified life coach. To receive the 2 free reports "5 tips to maximize your time" and "155 things moms can do to raise major children", visit its Web site at http://www.momnificent.com

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